Having What Matters

The golden moments

SunsetOnMadelineIsland-300x224“The golden moments in the stream of life rush past us and we see nothing but sand; the angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone.” – George Eliot


As we move from trying to get and do more, more, and more and toward having and doing what matters, we need to focus on also thinking more about quality instead of quantity.

This past weekend was very, very full around our home. We had family in town for four days, a memorial service for a beloved family member, a birthday party on Saturday and a dance recital on Sunday for our eight-year-old (and twelve of her closest friends!), and much more. There was lots of quantity and quality.

But I also felt throughout the weekend that I was just trying to “get through” each event and onto the next without dropping any plates that I was desperately and frantically spinning.

I wasn’t savoring all of the wonderful things going on around me. My parents who I don’t get to see as often as I would like. My daughter’s party and recital — those precious moments of her beautiful youth that I know are flying by much more quickly than I would like.

Too soon, my daughters won’t want to bounce with their mom in the inflatable bounce house in the front yard.

Too soon, my daughter won’t be up on the stage, smiling and laughing in her dance costume and basking in the glory of the lights and make-up and applause.

Too soon, I won’t have weekends where my parents come to town and we enjoy shopping and eating out and watching them spend time with their grandchildren.

Today: I will try to remember that I want to savor what really matters the most in my life. Every moment, focusing on building and adding quality moments to my life, not just more, more, more quantity. Quantity adds nothing but stress and anxiety and it takes away from my life.

Quality — really having the moments, events, people, and possessions that matter most — adds to my life, gives me meaning and pleasure, and gives me a feeling of peace and contentment that sheer quantity never, ever could.

Invitation: when you feel like you are just trying to “get through” things because there is so much to do and worry about, take a step back and remember that these moments are the moments of your life. Savor them.

Remember to hold the golden moments in your hand and visit with the angels in your midst. They may not come again.


Why You Hate Work

CleanDeskI just ran across this article this afternoon, and I thought it was very interesting:

Why You Hate Work by Tony Schwartz and Christine Porath published in the New York Times.

The article describes how workers are happiest when four core values are met:

Put simply, the way people feel at work profoundly influences how they perform. What our study revealed is just how much impact companies can have when they meet each of the four core needs of their employees.

Renewal: Employees who take a break every 90 minutes report a 30 percent higher level of focus than those who take no breaks or just one during the day. They also report a nearly 50 percent greater capacity to think creatively and a 46 percent higher level of health and well-being. The more hours people work beyond 40 — and the more continuously they work — the worse they feel, and the less engaged they become. By contrast, feeling encouraged by one’s supervisor to take breaks increases by nearly 100 percent people’s likelihood to stay with any given company, and also doubles their sense of health and well-being.

Value: Feeling cared for by one’s supervisor has a more significant impact on people’s sense of trust and safety than any other behavior by a leader. Employees who say they have more supportive supervisors are 1.3 times as likely to stay with the organization and are 67 percent more engaged.

Focus: Only 20 percent of respondents said they were able to focus on one task at a time at work, but those who could were 50 percent more engaged. Similarly, only one-third of respondents said they were able to effectively prioritize their tasks, but those who did were 1.6 times better able to focus on one thing at a time.

Purpose: Employees who derive meaning and significance from their work were more than three times as likely to stay with their organizations — the highest single impact of any variable in our survey. These employees also reported 1.7 times higher job satisfaction and they were 1.4 times more engaged at work.

What do you think?

Do you have time for renewal at work?

Do you feel valued by your supervisor?

Are you able to focus on one task at a time?

Do you feel like your work has meaning and significance?

These questions matter to both employers and employees.

If you are an employer concerned about attracting and retaining your top people, consider whether your organization is giving your people what they really need in these four areas.

And if you are working in an organization and not experiencing these four important values, what can you change? How can you increase your levels of renewal, focus, meaning, and feeling valued so that you can experience more “love” in your work?

Live Your Legacy: Be Known, Not Just Remembered

Canoe“We were meant to give our lives away. Spend more time living your legacy instead of worrying about leaving it.” ~ Lee J. Colan

It was difficult losing my grandfather, the patriarch of my mother’s large family and my extended family. As my family prepared for his funeral, I started thinking about the word “legacy” and how our legacy lives on long after we are gone.

According to the dictionary, a legacy is “something handed down from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past.” Many people think of a legacy as purely financial or material, items or money bequeathed from one generation to another. But I believe it is so much more.

When we think about what is actually handed down from person to person, generation to generation, it is about so much more than money. We are influenced by so many other people in our lives. Certainly we are influenced by our family and friends, and when those people leave our lives, they leave us a very personal legacy given our close relationship with them.

Celebrities and other famous people leave legacies. Think about wildly famous people who have passed away and consider what they have left behind. When the world sat riveted by the passing of Michael Jackson, many commentators considered what his legacy would be. What did we learn from Michael Jackson? What will Michael be remembered for? Certainly that varies from person to person, just as our memories of any individual will be our own and will differ from others around us.

I considered the life of my grandfather, whose influence was great. While I don’t want to dwell on his passing, he left a legacy for me, my family, and others that he touched. As I think about some of the lessons I learned from him, three come to mind immediately.

  1. Keep a sense of humor. My grandfather had a wicked, wry sense of humor that never failed to make me laugh. Even in the midst of incredibly difficult times, he would have a quip or a little comment that would at first make you wonder if he actually just said what he said, and then, when you realized he did say what you thought he said, you burst out laughing. Sometimes you can only laugh or cry at a situation. Why not find something to laugh about? Oftentimes we can’t change what is happening around us, but we can shift our outlook by finding a bit of humor or levity.
  2. Persist. Never give up. My grandfather grew an incredibly successful business out of nothing. He never gave up, even in the face of challenges and uphill struggles. He had such incredible drive and determination to create what he had envisioned and build a business that provided for his family. When it seems like we are going to fail, we need to evaluate the situation, change the course if necessary, but never give up in the face of adversity.
  3. Remember your family. In the end, the greatest legacy of mygrandfather is found in my family, my aunts and uncles, my many cousins, and the memories of holidays and times together. I remember riding with my grandfather out to the quarries to weigh semi-trucks full of rocks for the summer when I was 14-years-old. It was my first job. But I got to ride with my grandpa each day every day all summer, and I am grateful for that time together much more than I am grateful for any paycheck I received.

As we consider the legacy of those who have gone before us, I challenge you to live your own legacy. Don’t wait until the end of your life to discover what others learned from you or will attribute to you. Decide NOW what you want your legacy to be, and then live it. Every moment of every day decide what kind of person you want to be known as, what you want your children and grandchildren to remember about you, what you want others to say about you when you are gone. And live it now.

TODAY: Write out what you want to be known as at the end of your life. Write what you want those you love to say about you when your time on earth is complete. Reflect on this, and start creating that legacy today, this minute. If you find yourself out of congruence with this vision of your own legacy, gently correct yourself and remind yourself what you want your legacy to be. It will be a gift to those you love and to the world, and it will give you incredible peace of mind, congruence, and integrity as you become a real success – the living embodiment of your highest ideals and values. 

Look At Your Watch: The Time is NOW!

ClockHands“I am tomorrow, or some future day, what I establish today. I am today what I established yesterday, or some previous day.” ~ James Joyce

It is easy to talk about living fully in the present, but most people are unwilling or unable to actually do it. We get so caught up in the future, that we forget to enjoy the here and now. We think about upcoming work deadlines while on vacation. We worry about dessert instead of enjoying dinner.
We allow the present moment to be wasted because we are mentally in another place, missing out on the beauty to be found in the here and now.

Don’t squander your present by allowing it to be smothered by guilt about the past or worries about the future. The “now” is all you will ever have, this moment, this second. Mentally drifting away from the now moves you from the present into the past or the future, and ironically uses up your present by focusing on times that already passed or times that may come. There are dangers of dwelling in the past, and worrying about the future will rob you of the peace of mind and real success you could be experiencing right now. If you practice truly living in the present moment, you can stubbornly refuse to allow past problems or future worries to define you.

Look around you. Everything you need is here, right now. The air you are breathing. The clothes you are wearing. Your mind and your senses to take in this information and transform yourself. You are taken care of. Breathe it in, accept this gift. Be grateful.

Once you are truly appreciating your present and taking responsibility for your part in creating it, you can then begin to create a picture of your future. Don’t worry about the future—that is not the answer. But picture the future you wish to experience, take actions aligned with that image while being content in your present circumstance.

Remember to first be unattached and unencumbered by the past. Hanging on will hang you up.

Next, be content with what you have and who you are now, in the present. This is your reality.

Finally, be passionate and definite in your purpose as you move toward becoming your ideal self and living your ideal life. Don’t worry about what has happened before, and don’t worry about what could possibly happen in the future. Know what you want and who you want to be and live each day as that “you”.

Don’t label yourself, and don’t allow others to label you. You are not a label—the map is not the territory. You are so much more than words, adjectives, and descriptions. Labels will only serve to stifle and negate who you really are. Instead of living up to a label, become the very best version of yourself you can be, whatever that looks like.

As you bless and release your past and become content in your present, you are ready to confidently move into the future, a future you are creating moment by moment, with every decision and action you take. You are not your past, what you have done or been or how others have treated you. You are capable of incredible things—believe that now, in this moment. You have the power to become the person you want to be—don’t let anyone, especially yourself, tell you otherwise.

Everything that happened in your past is no longer here. It is finished. Think of your life as a play that has several different acts. You are the main character—do it boldly! And many other characters come into the play for maybe just one scene or maybe several scenes. Their characters are vital to the overall play, or they would not have been written into the script. Some characters will treat you well, some will not, but the play is not about them. Let them say their lines and walk off the stage. The play is yours. You are the writer. You hold the pencil that writes the script, the future. What will your character become, experience, and achieve?

The decision is all yours.

TODAY: Reflect on your gift: the present. Enjoy your everyday moments. Make a promise to yourself to live fully in the moment, not wasting your precious life energy worry about the past you cannot change or the future that you are in the process of creating. What will come, will come. By actively and consciously living in the present, you can control and determine the future! Be grateful, intentional, and alive in this beautiful moment, and you will become much more efficient, effective, and at peace.

Being Happy in an Unhappy World

GirlInWater“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.” ~ Andrew Carnegie

I’ve started watching much less news because of its doom-and-gloom coverage. You have to look long and hard to find anything positive covered by the newscasters, and it really doesn’t serve me to get depressed by learning about all of the terrible things happening around the world that I can do absolutely nothing about. So I generally pulled the plug. (Though I certainly try to stay abreast of news situations that could affect my family.)

But it is so hard to do, and very few people seem to be able to go very long without reading an online newspaper or news website. Every time something negative, discomforting, disconcerting, terrifying, or horrible comes across the news wires, they ingest it. It becomes part of their psyche for the day. They dwell on it, they devour it, and they allow it to transmute any positive energy they had into something that feels depressed, scared, or life-sucking.

In addition, when we see terrible things happening around the world, we feel almost guilty being happy in our own lives. How can I feel happiness when people are getting sick and dying? How can I experience bliss when there are wars taking place? How can I feel pleasure eating a lovely meal when people are starving somewhere else in the world?

A better question is, how can you not? What does your feeling sad, helpless, upset, and hopeless do for all of those suffering? Do not misunderstand me—my heart goes out to all of those suffering in any way. I am incredibly tender-hearted, almost to a fault. The tears flow freely when I hear of others suffering.

But let’s also be realistic. You have a life to lead. You have a family and friends and circle of influence to be present for. If you can’t do anything about the situations that are bringing you grief, then do not engage. This holds true not only for news from around the globe, but also for any other situation in your life. If you can’t improve the situation, exit it. Don’t engage. Slowly walk away mentally and emotionally, or run, depending on the situation. But don’t just sit there at the kitchen table or your work desk getting progressively more depressed and resigned. That is not a place from which real positive work or progress can come.

Better yet, take some positive action. Instead of sitting there bemoaning the starving children in Africa, get out your checkbook or go online and send a contribution to a humanitarian organization. Don’t just sit there and do nothing. As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” You can make a difference. Even when you think to yourself, “Oh, my $25 won’t change anything,” you are wrong. That $25 will feed a child for almost a month. And you can bet your bottom dollar that it makes a difference to that child. Taken together with the contributions of thousands of others who refuse to sit and wallow when they could be doing something to change the situation, that $25 might just start a wave of change and positive impact around the world. Don’t just sit there and complain—do something to make a change! You’ll feel better, and you never know what could come from your action.

>Regardless, give yourself permission to be happy, to be joyful, to have bliss in your life. You will begin a ripple effect that will be endless. Share joy and love with others, they will share it with their circle of influence, and so on. With every bit of brilliance you share from your strong, positive center, you will empower and equip someone else to do the same. You do not have to be negative and sullen just because there are tough things going on in the world around you. There will always be sad and terrible things going on. That does not mean that your life happiness has to be put on hold indefinitely.

You can choose in every moment where you put your focus. Focus on the things that bring you joy, fulfillment, happiness, peace, and that make the world around you a better place. These are the things that you want to expand in your life, and these are the things—your own emotions, reactions, and behaviors—that you have the power to choose and change in every moment.

TODAY: Give yourself permission to have life, and have it abundantly! Don’t get sucked into the world’s tragedies. Do something positive on issues you care about, pray for those involved, and then live your life the best you can, experiencing all the bliss you can in the wonderful moments that you have in this lifetime. Choose bliss and lead a life based on that decision. It will make all the difference!

Put on Your Own Air Mask First

HeartHandsSunset“When you can lovingly be present to yourself, your presence to others takes on a deeper quality also.” ~ MacRina Wiederkehr

Every time I get on an airplane, I listen to the flight attendant’s instructions. Put on your seat belt, make sure your tray and seat back are in the upright position. If there is an emergency landing in the water, the seat cushion doubles as a flotation device. And the all-important rule: if the air masks drop down from the ceiling, pull the line tight then put on your own air mask first before assisting others…

Though it is very, very hard to say “good-bye” to my two sweet daughters when my husband and I leave town together, I believe that time spent alone with my husband and the deepening and maintenance of our relationship is actually something that we do both for ourselves and for the benefit of our children. So even though I shed some tears when I kiss my little ones bye-bye, I know we’ll be back, small trinket gifts in hand for them, and we will give them an even greater gift—the gift of a strong relationship between their parents.

This also goes for taking care of yourself and your relationships if yoare a single parent or don’t have children. The people around you who care about you and whom you care about will benefit from the time you take to maintain yourself and your key relationships, be that caring for yourself physically through exercise and healthy eating, spiritually through meditation and quiet time, or emotionally through journaling or fun time with friends or by yourself. All parts of your life are interconnected, and giving positive attention and care to one area always benefits the other areas as well.

Life is synergistic. The better the functioning and fulfillment you experience in one area of life, the better you will feel about the other areas of life and the better you will function in those areas. I wanted to share this with you because it reminded me of this important lesson:

“Unplug” from work every once in a while. Nurture yourself with your own self-care—exercise, time in the sauna, quiet time in the sun with some good books, whatever it is that gives you that precious “me” time. And don’t feel guilty for doing it either. Make a rule around it if you have to by telling the significant people in your life that on Saturday from two until three o’clock, you aren’t to be bothered unless it’s a crisis. They’ll soon figure out that losing their favorite pair of shoes is not an emergency that requires your immediate attention!

I know that my time of self-care will improve my peace of mind, my ability to be fully present with my spouse and children, and my efficiency and creativity in my work, along with many other benefits. I am reminded of the vital importance of taking this time to rejuvenate and reinvigorate myself. Without “me time” we only operate at 75-90% of our capacity. We give up too much energy in anxiety, overwhelm, and exhaustion. And that can lead to irritability, instability, resentment, and anger. Why put anyone through that when a few minutes of downtime will put gas back in our tank?

So when that air mask drops down, what are you going to do? Take care of yourself first. It might go against your nature—and some people may think you’re selfish. But remember, you cannot care for others if you aren’t functioning at 100%.

TODAY: Think about these questions: What are you doing to nurture yourself? How have you cared for your body, mind, spirit, and relationships lately? Can you think how caring for one facet of your life can benefit the other areas? This process of evaluation will bring you a clearer picture of how lacking you are in taking care of yourself.

If you don’t put yourself at number one, who else will?


3 Powerful Ways That Forgiveness is Critical to Your Business and Personal Success

“We forgive freely or we do not really forgive at all.”~ Lewis B. Smedes

Who likes to think about all of the things that they have done that they probably should not have done and repent for them?

It’s a little uncomfortable, admitting you screwed up, asking forgiveness.


So I’ve spent some time really thinking about three key lessons that we all can learn about forgiveness.

  • Ask forgiveness.
  • Grant forgiveness.
  • Forgive yourself.

Here are some thoughts about each one of those life-affirming and life-changing tools …

1.  Ask forgiveness.

This one sounds so simple and yet I know it can be very hard. I know people who can hardly utter the words “I’m sorry,” much less “Please forgive me.” Yet those words have such healing power. To the person you have wronged, just hearing you say words of apology may go a long way toward rectifying the situation and putting your relationship back on track. If nothing else, it is certainly a step in the right direction.

But to go deeper—asking forgiveness means accepting responsibility for your actions. This is critical to leading a successful life. You must understand and grasp that you are 100% responsible for your actions, both good and bad. And when the consequences are not positive, you need to take the steps to make amends, even when it is difficult to swallow your pride and do that.

It’s probably clear how this can affect your personal life, but it can also seriously impact your legal practice. What if you accidentally overcharged a client, or didn’t deliver on a promise in a timely manner, or forgot to respond to their e-mail? You must apologize. It’s the right thing to do. It doesn’t matter who is at fault—it’s your practice. And when you do, not only will you redeem that relationship, but you will have deepened the relationship by showing that you are a person of integrity and a good person to work with.

2.  Forgive others.

There is no need to hold a grudge. It does not serve you—it only hurts you. If someone has asked for your forgiveness, give it to him or her. It was probably hard to ask, so be gracious.

And if someone has not asked for your forgiveness and has hurt you somehow, forgive them anyway. If you don’t forgive them in your own heart, you are giving them control over your emotions and feelings that they should not have. You are allowing them to make you feel angry, hurt, frustrated, and a host of other nasty things. Why are you giving them that power over you, especially if you are unhappy with them in the first place?

Again, it comes back to personal responsibility. Take responsibility for your feelings and actions. By forgiving, you release yourself from the emotional bondage you are in. That is a beautiful feeling—to know that you and you alone are truly in control of your reactions to the world and people around you.

3.  Forgive yourself.

Now this can also be very difficult. We learn from childhood to ask forgiveness and grant forgiveness, but we don’t learn to forgive ourselves.

I am harder on myself than I am on any other person. I am not proud of this, and I am getting much better about it, but there is still a lot of room for improvement. I should be as gentle, compassionate, and positive with myself as I am with my children, husband, family or friends. But I’m not. I sometimes shower myself with self-criticism—that I’m not smart enough or good enough to accomplish the big dreams I have. I beat myself up for little mistakes and grant myself no leeway.

We must remember that we are human beings just like everyone else. We make mistakes. We take longer to learn something than we want to. We say or do silly things. We break things. So what? Do we have to keep beating ourselves up for it?

Love yourself, and because you love yourself, forgive yourself. Be gentle and loving and compassionate with yourself, just as you would be with a small child or loved one. The love that you feel for yourself will shine through in your relationships with others and your business. And it will make your life so much more joyful. So give yourself a break. Tell yourself it’s “okay” to make a mistake or head in the wrong direction for a while. If you would forgive someone else for doing the same thing, why not forgive yourself?

TODAY: Think about these questions: Who can you ask for forgiveness? Who can you forgive? What can you forgive yourself for? Start down the path of forgiveness in these three ways and you’ll see great changes in your life!


Feeling Stuck? 8 Great Ways to Get Moving Again!

Walking“If you get up one more time than you fall, you will make it through.” ~ Chinese Proverb  

Sometimes when life and business get overwhelming and you feel stuck in a rut, pushing and straining harder is actually counter-productive. So when you feel like you have blown a mental fuse, here are some powerful ways to restart yourself and get moving forward again!

1. Get into nature. Go outside and take some deep breaths of fresh air. Put on your walking shoes and take a 15-minute power walk. Take off your shoes and wiggle your toes in the grass. Notice the beauty around you. Reconnecting with nature is a fantastic way to get your creative juices flowing again.

2. Shift into learning mode. When you are beating your head against a wall trying to create or get something done, take a little break and do some learning. Pick up a nonfiction, business or personal development book and grow your mind and yourself. Turn on an audio CD or a program that will help you learn a skill you need. Don’t waste time when spinning in circles. If you need to disengage from business for a while, engage in something else that still feeds and serves you.

3. Mix up your style. Do you have to do things the way you have always done them? If you usually work solely on the computer, maybe it’s time to disconnect and use an old-fashioned paper and pen. Maybe if you usually work in your home office, why not enjoy a change of scenery and work somewhere else for a few hours? Think outside of the box—sometimes just doing something in a different way or a different place will open new ways of thinking.

4. Enjoy some self-care. Maybe your mind is fried because you haven’t taken any time for yourself in a very long time. Take some time to have a cup of tea, enjoy a piece of chocolate, take a short nap, get a massage, whatever it takes to recharge you. By refueling and refreshing your body, you will be doing the same for your mind.

5. Reconnect with your big “WHY?” Sometimes when we are stuck, we need to take a moment to reconnect with our values, our priorities, and our big “WHY?” Why did we start our business in the first place? Why are we doing the task or project we are doing—what larger good in our business does it serve? Take a few minutes to get internally quiet and get in touch with your bigger motivations and visions for your business and yourself.

6.Feel the love. Call or connect with someone who supports you and your career. Chat for a few minutes. You could even start off the conversation honestly saying “I am hitting a wall today and just needed to connect with you for a little pep talk.” Or, “I am really frustrated today and I am wondering if you have a couple of minutes to help me process things.” That person will probably be more than happy to give you a few minutes of support, and it will help you get refocused, re-grounded, and restarted.

7. Work with a coach or mentor. Success leaves clues, and sometimes the best thing you can have is a coach or mentor to help you look at a problem in a different way, help you ask some different questions, and basically help you get from that rut back into motion. Sometimes it takes someone from the outside looking in to identify the problem, and together you can work toward a solution.

8. Build a mastermind group. Find a group of other successful women lawyers that you resonate with, whom you respect, and whose input you value. There is power in a group of minds coming together. So next time you are stuck, you have a team of people to encourage you or to give you suggestions.

Those are eight tips to get you going when you feel stuck.You probably aren’t as far from being “unstuck” as you think you are! You can get yourself back on track and on your way to success.

TODAY: When you are feeling stuck, try one of these tools or another one that you know has worked for you in the past. Don’t allow yourself to give up too early or stay stuck. Instead, look in your toolbox of ideas (like the ones in this article) and use them to get moving again as quickly as possible. Time wasted is time lost, so focus on doing what it takes, even if it is a few minutes away, to get rebooted and moving forward!


The sisterhood is broken

friends-sunset2Over my cup of morning coffee, this is the article I was reading on my local Twin Cities, Minnesota paper, the Star Tribune:

The latest impossible standard: Moms gone glam


In it, the writer examines how/why moms are always looking for a better, thinner, happier, sexier version of motherhood, as evidenced by photoshopped pictures of celebrity mothers on every magazine.

These images, the article’s author (Jene Osterheldt of the Kansas City Star) writes that these beautiful pictures of celebrity moms suggest unrealisticly high standards for moms out there who are doing the best they can. So instead of feeling better about ourselves as mothers, we see all of the things we aren’t doing right.

While this disturbs me deeply because I believe that social and cultural pressure make it very hard for us to both determine what matters in our lives and embrace it fully (not to mention, especially as the mother of two girls, how concerned I am with how these feminine images of “beauty” give us all sorts of body image issues), what bothers me just as much is that we can’t just blame the media, advertising agencies, and glossy magazines.

We are doing this to each other.

Loren Ochoa Walsh, a 32-year-old mom quoted in the article, described the “new culture of mom-on-mom bashing.”

“Moms are not always supportive of one another,” Walsh says. “It’s a lot of judgment about everything — how fast your body bounces back, vaccinations, breastfeeding. As a mom, you are constantly treading water. It’s rewarding but hard. So when someone throws down the gauntlet, it is not well received.

“I think it’s kind of sad, honestly. … I think there is a lot you can’t control, and we should focus on embracing it rather than competing with other moms or putting pressure on ourselves.”

Motherhood is hard enough — really, really hard — and we all want to be incredible at it. But when the standards feel impossibly high (and aren’t even based on reality since it took a good amount of photo editing to make some of those celeb moms look that perfect), we need to stick together and remind each other that we are doing the best we can under the circumstances.

I believe we are well aware of how we want to improve as mothers and women, and we usually don’t give ourselves or others enough credit for how terrific we are doing. For ourselves, we can’t stop letting those magazine covers mess with our heads and bring up all of our fears and insecurities. For others, we tear them down to cover up our own jealousies and insecurities. If we could be more content with where and who we are, we wouldn’t need to live in a state of constant comparison.

For both mothers and those without children, womanhood is a journey, a hard one filled with plenty of challenges inflicted both self-inflicted and created by everything around us.

Let’s embrace and support and high-five one another on that journey because we are all on it together.



A bit of a mix

ChocolatesHere’s what you can expect from my blog, in no particular order:

  • Random musings, thoughts, and ideas
  • Meaningful quotes
  • Interesting research/studies
  • Humorous experiences, happenings, or observations
  • Videos — sometimes serious, sometimes for kicks and giggles
  • Guest posts by other folks I respect
  • Good books, resources, and wise teachers I have found
  • Audio interviews with people who I think have something to contribute
  • A wide range of topics — health, spirituality, household tips, parenting ideas, philosophy, psychology — anything and everything I see and find that I think could help us move toward greater peace, joy, and contentment in our lives
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