Having What Matters

The golden moments

SunsetOnMadelineIsland-300x224“The golden moments in the stream of life rush past us and we see nothing but sand; the angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone.” – George Eliot

 

As we move from trying to get and do more, more, and more and toward having and doing what matters, we need to focus on also thinking more about quality instead of quantity.

This past weekend was very, very full around our home. We had family in town for four days, a memorial service for a beloved family member, a birthday party on Saturday and a dance recital on Sunday for our eight-year-old (and twelve of her closest friends!), and much more. There was lots of quantity and quality.

But I also felt throughout the weekend that I was just trying to “get through” each event and onto the next without dropping any plates that I was desperately and frantically spinning.

I wasn’t savoring all of the wonderful things going on around me. My parents who I don’t get to see as often as I would like. My daughter’s party and recital — those precious moments of her beautiful youth that I know are flying by much more quickly than I would like.

Too soon, my daughters won’t want to bounce with their mom in the inflatable bounce house in the front yard.

Too soon, my daughter won’t be up on the stage, smiling and laughing in her dance costume and basking in the glory of the lights and make-up and applause.

Too soon, I won’t have weekends where my parents come to town and we enjoy shopping and eating out and watching them spend time with their grandchildren.

Today: I will try to remember that I want to savor what really matters the most in my life. Every moment, focusing on building and adding quality moments to my life, not just more, more, more quantity. Quantity adds nothing but stress and anxiety and it takes away from my life.

Quality — really having the moments, events, people, and possessions that matter most — adds to my life, gives me meaning and pleasure, and gives me a feeling of peace and contentment that sheer quantity never, ever could.

Invitation: when you feel like you are just trying to “get through” things because there is so much to do and worry about, take a step back and remember that these moments are the moments of your life. Savor them.

Remember to hold the golden moments in your hand and visit with the angels in your midst. They may not come again.

 

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